Monday Mornings

Monday morning breakfast with Mark was different. This time, I get to experience having breakfast with a man out of his pocket.

Few weeks back Dan spent his weekend over my place and we hanged-out in a bar. The shop owner was looking a lot better than the rest yet he's married and with a kid. Though looking good I have to pass. Not again.

A week or so after, he took my number...

And... yesterday morning he insisted on a breakfast with me.

And now, he's bugging me. Last night he asked how I was. He asked if he could sleep at home. He asked if we would go out again.

Man, are you crazy??? Cool as it may seem, man go back to your wife and kid!

Darn!

to my heartache

I know that you are there. Yet you choose to ignore me. And I have to come realize when I saw your recent pics that it might not be you after all. You looked so handsome on your previous pics. I bet lately you have not been taking care of yourself that much., have you? Looks like you have lost weight and you have looked like an addict. Gain back the weight, just a bit. Your deep set eyes has failed to capture my heart lately. And I noticed that your lips are getting darker. Have you been smoking hard?

I wanna see you. I wanna be there.
But... If I do, will I fly into your heart too?

Will I see you?
Will you hug me when I see you?
Will you hold me tight in your arms and kiss me by then?
Will you?
Will you be you?

Doze off... Slip into dreams... Keep me closer... I love you...

Happy Birthday Lourds!

Happy Birthday Lourds!

aaawww ouch moment?

he shut-off the comments in friendster
why?
but
i like him
i was hurt
i feel frustrated again
he is simply adorable
how i wish i can love him
how i wish he'd feel the same
he is darn cute
he is like sooo my type
HE IS...
pohtah! bad trip!
yun lang
badtrip!
waaaaaa

Just For Laughs

very candid pics

Bataan

Went on a road trip to Bataan with Rap-Rap (hostess), Dan, Pao and Ash
August 23-25, 2008
On the way home we drove by Angeles City
You will see two sets of pictures from 2 cameras used.

Trip to Bataan

Yes, I was there! We were there! Wanna see? We used two cameras, thus I have two sets for you. Bataan 1 Bataan 2

Chill Out Shindig

TELUS Town Hall dubbed as Chill Out Shindig happened at SIlver City last Aug 17 2008

Dried Pusit

My brother is coming back from his trip to Zamboanga this afternoon and I will be getting my dried pusit pasalubong!!! Oh yeah!!! Hell yeah!!! You heard me right, darn!!! Dried pusit! Yummy!!! Get it on!!! Talaaaappp!!!

Free Music Download

Want some free music download? Check this out, my recent find--- AmpMode.com

Happy Slip

I am recently hooked into Happy Slip (http://www.happyslip.com). I have been watching video clips over the weekday til weekend. Jhing told me about this site. Right after landing on its page I was caught by her videos of her trip to the Philippines. It was very well done. She speaks damn well. She is funny. It was just touching. Christine Gambito (a.k.a. HappySlip) was born in the US by her Filipino parents and was here when she was 1 year old. Not until recently Dept. of Tourism invited her to tour the Philippines. She has a very strong attachment to her filipino blood and ancestry.

Sunday: Movies I watched today

The Love Guru--- it's not that entertaining or hilarious.... Just so-so... The guru in this movie was trying to settle the romantic trouble of a hockey player. And what can I say, I like this hockey player! I find him so appealing! Hit me baby!
Watch it here.


Made of Honor--- this is great! Very romantic! Would wanna fall in-love again! A guy trying to win his engaged best friend! And yeah, Scotland looks so classic to live in! Wonderful.
You can follow this link

Night out with SAA schoolmates

Enrique (Iking) invited me last night to meet our former schoolmates (his friends and my soon-to-be friends) from SAA. We were batchmates. Had to leave SAA after elementary grades and move to another high school. Glad to have seen matured faces whom I have not for almost 16 years now. They all look different! Well..... kind-a... Eumir Buban though is still Eumer. Only that he looks like a dad now. He doesn't have any kids yet. I also met Jaime Vargas (joined when they were high school).

It was raining though!

I followed late at night to where they are at Pioneer and drove all the way from Mandaluyong to Parañaque to drop by AirForce 1. But hell that KTV wasn't for us. Owen, Eric Codornis and Manuel were left there and we had to go back to QC. Richard Galang, Enrique, Emerson Guazon, Mary Ann Balin, Jessica (came to SAA high school so we haven't been together) and I went to Jay-J's around Metrowalk.

Last night I met Rea and Lourds too!

Left 5:30am and got home 6am. Couldn't sleep that much. Had to watch some movies online!

Randy Pausch Last Lecture: Achieving Your Childhood Dreams

Carnegie Mellon Professor Randy Pausch, who is dying from pancreatic cancer, gave his last lecture at the university Sept. 18, 2007, before a packed McConomy Auditorium. In his moving talk, "Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams," Pausch talked about his lessons learned and gave advice to students on how to achieve their own career and personal goals. For more, visit www.cmu.edu/randyslecture.

"Journeys" are special University Lectures in which Carnegie Mellon faculty members share their reflections on their journeys -- the everyday actions, decisions, challenges and joys that make a life.

Randy Pausch Lecture: Time Management

1997 Honda City EXi

Bought June 1 2008

POWER Windows!

The horror of having the car with a power window has began. The assembly on my side has stopped responding and I just couldn't leave the car! For some weird thing it just wouldn't move anymore.
To the rescue were my friends from the office-- Chris, Mary, Powie and Ines.

Oh by the way, I guess Ines went to see me not because of the stalled window but to show her new hair cut done by this Japanese hair stylist which she said she and Mickey will go to.

Anyway, so there it was. This morning I filed for insolvency because I had it fixed and had an alarm system installed.

Now the alarm is something that is complicated for me and I couldn't understand its science. The manual was hard to understand because I cannot figure out where the words are coming from. But I will figure out soon.

HONDA CITY

Got myself a HONDA CITY today.
Too tired and lazy to blog about it!
Heck!
hahaha
**I would like to thank my friends, Chinky and Eric, for all their time, hard work, stress and passion in accompanying me in search of this car. To you Chinky and Eric- THANK YOU!

Family Day

Start:	May 25, '08 5:00p
End:	May 25, '08 9:00p
Location:	Daraga Albay

Everyone is invited to a luncheon at our residence in Daraga.

Camsur Watersports Complex

Start:	May 23, '08
Location:	Camarines Sur

Euresian Paradise Resort

Start:	May 24, '08
Location:	Balogo, Pasacao, Camarines Sur, Philippines 4417

Vacation @ hometown

Start:	May 17, '08
End:	May 26, '08
Location:	Legazpi City

going home
taking a rest

MULTIPLY - mobile version

My PC's hard drive crashed. Was producing some sound while spinning. To blame my brother for being so stubborn and hooked to his online or whatevah games!
Am using my mobile to browse some WAP sites via GPRS. Found that MULTIPLY is one of those.
Cool, that's about it!

Cebu Pacific cuteness

ang crush kong flight attendant ng Cebu Pacific.
Ang cute!
Tapos pagbaba ko kinunan ko sila Kim at Geralde kaya lang shy ako.
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Potch's kid

anak ni potch
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Kim and Geralde

Kim and Geralde. Kasabay ko sa flight. Went to Legazpi for their mall show.
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Kim and Geralde

Kim Chiu and Geralde
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Waterfalls

Butterfly Garden's waterfalls
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Ian Luna

with Ian Luna @ Magayon Festival in Albay last 2007
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Videoke night

CTS QAs with Lourds and Jepoy. Videoke night in Makati
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Mga muslim

at Jade Hotel

Subic 004.avi

Kevin was here

Kevin was here! We spent the whole afternoon together. I came right from work and he travelled all the way from Sta. Mesa where he's staying while reviewing for the Nursing Board. I slept after he left at about 7pm. Geez I was up for more than I could. Kev was funny to be with. He's jolly. We kidded a lot.

On a Saturday morning I had my Six Sigma Certification exam. God I hope to ACE it. No less than 100%.

Movies Watched 04.12.2008

Horton Hears a Who
HHW Part 1
HHW Part 2
HHW Part 3

Superhero Movie
Superhero Part 1
Superhero Part 2
Superhero Part 3

Juno

Watch Juno here

All these courtesy of Movie6.net

pelikula eSnips Folder

http://www.esnips.com/web/rachel-pelikula
holds some great movies to watch

my new toy

eSnips

I stored some of the movies I have downloaded and watched here. Check it out!

An Inconvenient Truth (Al Gore talks about Global Warming)

***I urge you all to blog about, post, talk about, share, simply act on this. Watch it. It is a great clip to think of.***

Director Davis Guggenheim eloquently weaves the science of global warming with Mr. Gore’s personal history and lifelong commitment to reversing the effects of global climate change. A longtime advocate for the environment, Gore presents a wide array of facts and information in a thoughtful and compelling way. “Al Gore strips his presentations of politics, laying out the facts for the audience to draw their own conclusions in a charming, funny and engaging style, and by the end has everyone on the edge of their seats, gripped by his haunting message,” said Guggenheim. An Inconvenient Truth is not a story of despair but rather a rallying cry to protect the one earth we all share. “It is now clear that we face a deepening global climate crisis that requires us to act boldly, quickly, and wisely.”

WATCH MOVIE

PART 1
PART 2
PART 3
PART 4
PART 5

Alvin and the Chipmunks

In a tree farm, three musically inclined chipmunks, Alvin, Simon and Theodore, find their tree cut down and sent to Los Angeles. Once there, they meet the frustrated songwriter David Seville, and despite a poor house wrecking first impression, they impress him with their singing talent. Seeing the opportunity for success, both human and chipmunks make a pact for them to sing his songs. While that ambition proves a frustrating struggle with the difficult trio, the dream does come true after all. However, that success presents its own trials as their unscrupulous record executive, Ian Hawke, plans to break up this family to exploit the boys. Can Dave and the Chipmunks discover what they really value amid the superficial glamor around them?

WATCH MOVIE

After Sex

AFTER SEX is an edgy relationship comedy that uses sex as a background to examine intimacy and vulnerability. It’s a humorous, yet honest look at the complexity of modern day relationships told through nine separate couples. Through witty dialogue and compromising situations, the film takes us from the beginning of a relationship to the aftermath of one, and examines every stage in between while somehow finding humor within the drama, heartache and confusion of it all. What is learned about human emotions and vulnerability is enlightening and entertainingly sexy and fun.

PART 1
PART 2
PART 3

88 Minutes

In Seattle, the successful forensic psychiatrist and college professor Jack Gramm is in evidence since he was responsible for the condemnation of the serial killer Jon Forster, influencing the jury to sentence him to the death row. Jon accuses Jack of manipulation, inducing one witness and sister of one of his victims to testify against him. On the eve of Jon’s execution, Jack receives a phone call telling him that he has only eighty-eight minutes of life, while a killer is copycatting Jon, killing women with the same “modus-operandi” and is investigated by Seattle Slayer Task Force. With the support of his former wife and associated Shelly Barnes, the FBI agent and his friend Frank Parks and his assistant Kim Cummings, Jack investigate some weird and problematic students, a security guard of the campus and the woman with whom he had one night stand.

Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Part 4

Justice League Movie 2008

Justice League: The New Frontier
Adapting the award-winning DC Comics miniseries DC: THE NEW FRONTIER by Darwyn Cooke, Justice League: The New Frontier spins a tale of the DC Universe in the 1950s, focusing on test pilot Hal Jordan (Green Lantern) and the Martian Manhunter. The story also features other DC characters, including Barry Allen (the Flash), Superman, Wonder Woman, Batman, and many more.

Watch this movie. I just did.

Holy Week 2008

Holy Week 2008 pictures here.
Will blog about it next time or when I feel like talking about it.

Bad Company

Another movie to watch: BAD COMPANY with Chris Rock. Stream it here. Hope it remains available for some time 'til you get to this blog/page.

Vantage Point

One of the movies I watched over the weekend was Vantage Point.

With a Rashomon narrative style, the attempted assassination of the president is told from five different perspectives. In Spain to give a speech announcing an anti-terrorism initiative, the U. S. President (William Hurt) is apparently shot. The action tracks Secret Service agent Thomas Barnes (Dennis Quaid) as he deals with the chaos following the shooting. We see the event first through the eyes of the television news director (Sigourney Weaver), then the scenes rewind and we see it again from several different perspectives.

Great movie to watch too!

Again, found it at Moviesniffing. Click on one of the links on the page to stream the movie.

Meet The Spartans

The heroic Leonidas, armed with nothing but leather underwear and a cape, leads a ragtag group of 13–count ‘em, 13!–Spartans to defend their homeland against the invading Persians (whose ranks include Ghost Rider, Rocky Balboa, the Transformers, and a hunchbacked Paris Hilton–no one is safe when the Spartans take on the biggest icons in pop culture).
Found this movie at moviesniffing. The link that I used to stream the movie is here. Watch it! Enjoy! And melt your heart out!

3 Pigs and a BABY

Another feel-good movie. This is for kids though. So for those young at heart, here's one for us!


Part 1

Part 2

Part 3

Part 4

BEWARE: SMART *888 Customer Care

I have called SMART's Hotline too rarely. In those few occasions I have compared the service I received from SMART and GLOBE. So far, SMART's Customer Care is the WORST, ever! Wait time is horrible, for one. Add to that the atrocity that the persons answering your calls give. Damn! Not only do they lack english skills but they also lack the information that you need! They would answer rhetorically. Apart from that these people really have attitudes! They don't know how to handle calls. Imagine one Rep telling me to properly use the phone or else they would drop the call and the moment I said "Excuse me" after that was thin air! Voila! She was gone! They are really horrible as monsters and very atrocious! I almost have my calls dropped the moment I speak English and ask them to repeat what they have just said due to poor grammar. They make me sick and nose-bleed! I tell you... Before you call this *888 number with your mobile phone get a glass of water, turn your air conditioning to the max, grab a pain reliever or worse something for the heart. Think more than twice! I am warning you!

Alicia Silverstone

Alicia Silverstone’s Sexy Veggie PSA
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Dr. Dolittle: Tail To The Chief

Maya Dolittle, who can talk to animals like her father, is placed on special assignment by the President of the United States of America. Dr. Dolittle: Tail To The Chief is a 2008 American comedy film, starring Kyla Pratt. The movie tells us not to give up, that failures are a part of success and what is important is what we do with the failures after it happens.
"Keep swinging!"
"We have nothing to fear but fear itself."
"Failure is a part of life even for successful people. The trick is, what are you gonna do about the failure? Are you gonna quit or are you gonna keep on swingin'?"

Panagbenga 2008

I swear I had no idea when I said YES to the trip to Baguio that it was for Panagbenga 2008, much to my surprise! Just in time with the Nursing Board's release. While having my feet done Ate was overjoyed with the results of the exam. She passed the board, finally! And so I oferred to treat her to Baguio City. I was going there anyway and travelling single. *Without much ado, Paul, She, Ate and I went to Baguio Friday afternoon (Feb 22) via the 2pm Victory Liner trip. The travel was a bit gruesome at 7 hrs arriving Baguio at past 9pm. My back ached! It was biting cold. Yes, the gush of wind was seeping through my bones, trembling. My thin frame was shaking and looking for the warmth of another human. *We stopped at Mocha Blends to have coffee while waiting for the ride to Paul's house. To my surprise someone called Pau saying that there was a dare for a meet-and-greet thing. Pau's "Boo" was there too! Another boylet in the making! Pau's place was a 15-20 minute drive away from town. The place is called IRISAN. *Noteworthy was Pau's handsome teen-age brother Tadj. I didn't have his pic though. Bad. Sinalubong nya si "ate." How sweet. I fell inlove. Love-at-first-sight. *We went out the following day, Saturday, and watched the Parade. I ate strawberry taho to which I suspected as the culprit for my sore throat that lasted until I arrived Manila without any relief. Same day we went to Strawberry Farm. The vendors know how to appease customers. Ako nga binola na nagpa-rebond eh! The stalls are right along the way and the items from all sorts are cheap. Of course, all Baguio. *Wasn't really feeling well any longer. Had to buy medicines and gargle too often. Drink lotsa water. Until the following day came I had to shift medicines to antihistamine for my Allergic Rhinitis. Until I arrived Manila not feeling relieved at all. I had my Doctor's call this morning. We shifted to another medicine. *Anyway, we also stopped at SM Baguio (the loft area was great). Dined at ZOLA. Had the chance to eat at a posh Japanese Resto (Emperor's Court, parang kainan sa loob ng motel). Drank at Ala Carte Grill and Bar. Sang at Red Lion (Legarda). Filled our tanks at CALTEX Cafe.
*At Red Lion the room was co-occupied by screaming mommas! They were wild like Pros. Old as they look. Pero maasim.
*My savings ATM Card was lost. So I ran into a dilemma of cash shortage and had to resort to choosing places to dine and unwind that accepts the credit card. While Ate was a victim of pick-pocket loosing her MENTOS, hahaha. *Pau was unbelievable. He had 2 men going gaggah over HIM. Samantalang nilangaw ang beauty ko. HE was too busy with HIS men that we barely had time to rampa! Unlike Juno who has a world of his own, I am not crazy! Ask Pau about Mokz and Jojit. See the pics! Grabe! Pinagaagawan sya ng isang PILAY at isang BI. May rhyme pa! *We missed watching the floral parade coz (1) they were busy drinking the night before until early morning ( I went home ahead to rest) and (2) it was raining! Oh we have been drinking every night pala. And they were drinking heavily. I had to rest. *The weather was really cold! Imagine fog at ground zero during noon!
*Baguio was simply CROWDED specially Session Rd. Seem like Baguio was so small that it was ONLY Session Rd that people know of.
*Taking panoramic pictures is one of the best things you can do in Baguio. I just didn't have the right camera for that though and barely had training on how to get these pictures with the right exposures.
*Before leaving they served Pinekpekan, hahaha. Kidding. Don't know how they spell it!
*Leg room of the bus going back to Manila was cramped. Seats were closer compared to the previous bus but the ride was faster at 5 hrs.

One More Chance

I rarely watch pinoy flicks but this darn movie as recommended by Riza made me cry!!!
The hopeless romantic that I am...
I have been crying for almost 3/4 (or more) of the showtime of this movie.
I don't have sleep from work yet!
It has caused my headache for which I am not mad about!
Coz this damn movie is one hell of a shit for making me cry all the while!

One More Chance!!!

Feb 9, Saturday fever

I opened an HSBC Classic account with HSBC Savings Bank in Valle Verde. At the same time I requested for an HSBC Classic VISA Card. This is a secured credit card. How it works is like I have a guaranteed amount with the bank. Eighty percent (80%) of my savings amount is my credit limit. That said the approval was very fast. I opened the account on a Thursday noon and the courier was at our doorsteps Sunday morning with the VISA Card.

Yesterday, Riza, Troy and I went to Southmall to attend Georgia's kid's christening. The flux at SLEX was unnerving that we didn't make it to church. And so we headed to SM Southmall and had merienda at Barrio Fiesta (the reception).

Oh boy, Troy's new card is grand and dazzling! Geez! I wanna have my own! Darn! He's rich while I can barely breath! hahahaha
By the way, talking about Troy, he is still obstreperous and boisterous!

Before going home Riza and I dropped by TIMEX (Southmall) and claimed the DUNLOP Sens 1 watch that came free with the HSBC VISA Card.

Arriving at Cainta, I have to drop by the supermarket to swipe the card. I mean to buy some house supplies. I was so tired upon getting home. I felt dizzy upon waking up and so I thought I was pregnant only for me to remember that I barely ate last night!
I have been looking for images of these cards online coz I do not have a scanner but I am finding it hard! I love how the HSBC cards look like. They're striking!

** I am eating oatmeal chocolate chip cookies and polvoron now from a stall in Banchetto **

40 Days: + Jay Russell B. Arjona +

Dec 25 to Feb 4, 2008

Suddenly I began to count... Realized, 40 days... It has been 40 days since his demise from my life. I remember looking at the calendar months back with the same thought, it has been 40 days since we were together. It has been 40 days of agonizing pain. A day more and I have surpassed the 40 days of Christ's passion. I have weathered the emotions. And now, looking back at those more than 40 days is alleviating.

You guys know who you are. Thank you for absorbing all the anguish that I had. I am so grateful for the support and the long talks that we had. For listening to the sunny moments of this fairytale romance up to its stormy end. Relationships has taught me to endure, made me rich in flavor and be robust. We love and yet again we love though we know it might hurt. As mortals, pain is part of life. We sacrifice because we wanted to cherish a lasting relationship. Until we can no more. We never forget the ones we love. Yes, I still love him and I always will.

I would like to appreciate ALL those who have played an active role in my life since I decided to end it. It has been a journey of life and so we MUST go on.

uTorrent Download

I was downloading the recent episode of Smallville (Season 7 Episode 10) few minutes ago. I was sooo thrilled. Oh boy, the download was very fast (compared to my previous download experiences). I have been using SMART Bro and my download speed never got this better! Imagine I used to have about 40kbps... And when I checked my client was hungry for bandwidth at over 250kbps! And so I added the latest episode of Heroes (Season 2 Episode 11). It got even better at over 300kbps! Probably because there were many seeds and leechers. So whenever the episodes are released I really have to grab them fast coz the seeds and leechers are peaking at 1,000 plus! This might have made it faster. Cool

But oh boy! Downloading was never this fun before!

Gotta watch the episodes muna! See yah later!

Why Don't Men Talk Like Women Do?

By David Zinczenko From his book, "Men, Love & Sex: The Complete User's Guide for Women"

Here's a great irony: Men, in general, are happy in their relationships. And yet women -- the very people responsible for making guys so happy -- spend a great deal of time fretting over whether their men want to stay in the relationship or are waiting to catch the next bus out of it. Indeed, women spend so much time fretting that they often ask men to talk more about ... gasp! ... their feelings. And the one thing that can make a contented guy discontented is being asked to talk about his feelings. It's like cooking up a great souffle, and then opening the oven to check on it -- and presto, the souffle goes flat.

It's not that you should never ask a man about his feelings. But it's all about technique: you need to coax him to that place where he can share; pushing him just makes him stubborn.

Don't use the f-word

The problem for a lot of guys is that talking feelings with a woman is like talking French with a native Parisian. No matter how hard we study, we'll never master the language with quite the same fluency. So you need to make things a little simpler for us.

From our end, we'd prefer that you don't directly ask about the "f-word" -- feelings. Say the word feelings to a man and it's like clipping your toenails during a striptease -- total turn-off. The reason? We have feelings, but we don't have the access to them that you do. So every conversation that's pointedly about our feelings seems to us like the last 15 minutes of "Law & Order," where we're the perp and you're the clever detective, poking a finger in our face and hinting that you know just a little more than we do. And you do know a little more than we do. You know how you feel. And we don't know how we feel. So if you want us to talk, then help us speak your language -- by speaking a little of ours.

The point: If you want us to answer questions about what we're feeling, then stop asking about how we're feeling. Instead, watch how we behave, and where our interests lie. And be open about your feelings. The more you show comfort in expressing yourself, the more he'll do the same.

How do I know where the relationship is going?

I feel like I've hit a snag in a relationship with my boyfriend. We've been seeing each other for a few months. Everything was really great in the beginning. Now, it seems like we've fallen into that typical relationship routine. We see each other during the week, rent a movie on Fridays, and usually have sex twice a week (once after the movie). He's nice to me and treats me well, but I'd like to get things back to where they were. He tells me everything's fine, assures me he cares about me, and tells me not to worry about it. But I still do because what he says is one thing but what happens week to week is another. Any idea what he's thinking?

Yeah. He's thinking exactly what he's saying, which is that everything's fine. "Women think that not talking about the relationship means there are problems, but it's the opposite for men. If we're not talking about it, it means we're happy," says Conner, 32. So the real question is not "What's he thinking?" It's "What are you thinking?" If you're content with the relationship you've got, then relax and enjoy it. And if you want more, say so. "If a man loves a woman, he'll prove it with daily action not just words," says Jimmy, 27. Either he'll step up to the plate, or what he's giving now is all he's got -- and maybe you need to move on.

Why don't guys answer emotional questions?

I've got a good friend who recently left her husband. They have one child who's eight, and my friend and her ex are now in this bitter disagreement about custody, about money, about who gets to see the daughter when. When I told my husband about it, I asked him how he felt about it, because these are really serious issues, and I figured he'd have really serious thoughts on them. Instead, he just sat there, shrugged his shoulders, and said, "That sucks." Does the man have no feelings?

Of course he has feelings, and he told you what they were: He feels the situation sucks. Oh, but wait ... you were looking for something more. Here's the problem: You wanted him to tune into your concerns, but the signal you were sending was fuzzier than a pirate radio station. It's the old "feelings" conundrum again. If you want to ask him how he'd handle a custody issue, then ask him how he'd handle a custody issue. If you want to know if he thinks it's wrong for one partner to give up on a marriage, then ask him about that. But don't ask him about his feelings and expect him to surmise that your telling him a story about the neighbors is some Aesop's fable for your relationship. "We're simple. Please, no hints or assumptions," says D.J., 26. "Say what you mean, mean what you say. Don't make us guess as if we know what you are trying to say or feel."

D.J.'s a bit of a wishful thinker. Just as men like direct, problem A/solution B equations, women seem to take a more poetic and metaphorical approach to communication. That's why communication between the sexes is so much work. To men, dealing with hypotheticals is fun when we're talking about pennant races and the stock market, not when you're asking us to project how we'd feel about anything really serious, like a breakup or infidelity or pizza toppings. In that case, direct questions will get you the answers you want: let's stay together, I'll be faithful forever, and no anchovies, please.

Why can't a guy just plan out our future?

My husband and I have two kids, a boy and a girl, ages three and six. I'm tired of taking the pill, so I've tried talking to my husband about other options. Specifically, I asked him if he wanted more kids. (I could go either way.) And if he didn't, then we should talk about a vasectomy. But he can't decide whether he wants more children, and he doesn't seem too thrilled with the idea of getting the vasectomy. Why doesn't he just tell me what he wants so then we can come up with some kind of game plan?

Your question contains this interesting phrase: "I could go either way." It sounds like you and your husband are both comfortable in a pair of flip-flops. In our polls and surveys, we've asked men about the vasectomy issue. John, 41, has been talking about a vasectomy with his wife, but they're having trouble getting at the root of who really wants to do what. "Neither of us will come right out and say we're done having kids. She thinks me not signing right up for the operation somehow means that I have this evil master plan: that if I dump her, I'll be able to have kids with some 22-year-old bimbo. But I just don't want to get one, because neither of us have closed the door on having kids, and if she's up for it, I'm up for it."

The fact is that men hate admitting that they don't have a plan, and with complex issues like this, it's hard for a guy to decide, unilaterally, the rest of both your lives. He's going to flip and flop like a beached sea bass until he knows for certain. And then, one day, he's just going to announce his decision.I know, it's hard living with us. Just don't try living without us.

Masculinity mastered: what you now know about men

• "Feelings" is our f-word. Bleep it out of your conversational repertoire. Try pointed questions like "What do you think about...."
• We feel everything's okay when we're not talking about feelings. When we're talking about feelings, we feel everything's on the rocks.
• Backed into a corner, we won't let you into our heads. Give us some space and we'll let you in.

Say this tonight!

• The sexiest thing a woman ever said to Dale, 32: "What would you like for breakfast?"
• The sexiest thing Tricia, 28, ever said to a man: "I wish I could have you."

Say this, not that!

• Say this: "What do you think about that?"
• Not: "How do you feel about that?"
• Because: He knows how to answer the first question, but the second one makes him nervous.

• Say this: "I wish I could say this in a way that makes more sense to you."
• Not: "You don't understand me."
• Because: Miscommunication is a two-way street.

• Say this: "Let's go for a drive."
• Not: "Let's sit down and talk."
• Because: Men are less tense when they're doing something physical.

• Say anything: Once
• Not: Ten times
• Because: To a guy, repetition makes a statement meaningless.

What it means when....

• He says, "I love you" for the first time (not during sex).
• He does. And he thought it long before he ever said it.

• He says, "Fine," in response to a question about how his day was.
• Fine. If something significant happened, he'll tell you -- in a few hours.

• He says, "Five," when you ask him how many women he's slept with.
• Twelve.

Wondering woman

Why is it so hard for guys to write a personal message in a birthday card? Every year all I get is "Love, Jim." Five minutes on the way back from the drugstore doesn't give a whole lot of time to come up with something clever. Plus, he'd rather let a nice dinner and a show do the talking for him.

Male mysteries

• 27: Percentage of men who say they primarily fight with their wives or girlfriends about the fact that they don't share or talk about their feelings.
• 65: Percentage of men who don't want their partners to ask more questions about them.

Excerpted by permission from "Men, Love and Sex, The Complete User's Guide for Women" by David Zinczenko with Ted Spiker; Rodale, 2006

David Zinczenko is editor in chief of Men's Health and editorial director of the new magazine Best Life, a magazine for affluent, 40-plus men. He co-wrote The New York Times bestseller the "The Abs Diet," and "Men, Love & Sex: The Complete User's Guide for Women," which offers up hundreds of insights on how men think, feel, and behave. Look for David's Yahoo! Health blog where he explores anything and everything that has to do with men, women, sex, and relationships.

First week at Harte-Hanks

One word: BUSY
Synonym: HECTIC
Description:
The work area is enclosed. You see no windows. You don't see the outside world. You have no view of a sunrise or a sunset. You barely feel that you have to eat. There's alotta food! You barely notice that you have to go home. Work. Work. Work. With open internet access I wasn't able to BLOG at all. There is no MSN IM and YM. The Lotus Notes Mail is better than the TELUS/Amber Webmail. I am surrounded by men! I did not get to see my friends. I barely talked to them. I received an escalation. I have to let go of a QA (downsize). Told that I only have 1 QA for a single account with 3 LOBs and about 30 agents. Goodluck!

The worst, NO OUTGOING Phone Calls like I used to!

USE

When one tells you via SMS that you are USELESS how would you retort?
Why would they text you on the first place if you were USELESS?
And if you were USEFUL would that not make them a USER?

user
noun
1.	a person who makes use of a thing; someone who uses or employs something
2.	a person who uses something or someone selfishly or unethically [syn: exploiter]
3.	a person who takes drugs [syn: drug user]

American Psychological Association (APA):

user. (n.d.). WordNet® 3.0. Retrieved January 29, 2008, from Dictionary.com website: http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/user

GAY CHRONICLES

I came across the following blogs worth sharing related to my previous thoughts on Gay relationships as appended on my post FRIDAY MADNESS.

• Gay Blogger's Chorva on Relasyong M2M
  
• Reyna Elena Dot Com

Found on these pages are links to related posts. So basically these are like networks of posts on the issue. Read on. Be educated. Be entertained. I was. I was touched...

I am not done reading yet...

Kowtable Kowts

• We go through life thinking someone else will make us happy. But we're wrong. Happiness is our job. We just need someone else to share it with.
  ~Diana
• .i.LOVE.you.RALPH. (repeated 8 times)
  ~Cesar
• I am wanted by many
  I am looking at some
  I am taken by none
  But I am waiting for one
  ~Troy
• hmmm.. I wish you were mine
  ~Cesar
• .wala. i like you lang.
  ~Cesar
• .seriously. i think im starting to fall for you
  ~Cesar
• A Little Girl's Prayer:
  Dear Lord,
  Please send clothes for the poor women who don't even have bra and panties in my kuya's magazine.
  Amen.
  ~Jay (my brother)
• .i dunno. bsta everytime i read your messages my heart beats so fast e
  ~Cesar
• When I think about what love has brought me I remember the times that my only refugee was alcohol. It helped me forget about my pain and my misery. I forgot about the person I have given the power to hurt me. Experience has taught me to be wise and I keep with me one hard earned lesson amidst my drunken stupor--- giving too much of myself to somebody is almost the same as suicide.
  ~Diana
• When I was in Grade school my teacher told me to write what I wanted to be when I grow up. I wrote "HAPPY." She told me I didn't understand the assignment. I told her she didn't understand life.
  ~George
• Don't make the same mistake twice. Marami pang kasalanan jan, try mo yung iba.
  ~Troy
• It's better to enjoy life committing MISTAKES and LEARN rather than PLAYING SAFE in your entire life and learned NOTHING at all.
  ~Troy
• If only words were that easy to speak. If only wounds heal in a matter of seconds. Then, maybe, falling won't hurt like hell and loving won't sound stupid.
  ~Troy
• Define COMPLICATED. It's when you don't know where you stand in a person's life;
  It's when you're hanging in dead air and knowing you can be thrown off anytime;
  It's when you're like more than friends but not really and;
  It's like you're lovers when it's really otherwise.
  Sometimes you would want to wish to have never met the person at all but at the back of your mind you're thankful you have.
  ~Troy
  

Split personality

Female persona:

The craze on my SMART mobile has gone down since Kevin and I last night had disagreement over certain issues. He said that he cancelled sending his pic to my email coz he was unsure if I were being true to him or not and that he doesn't know me at all and wanted to be "safe." And so we're back to the old topic of him coming over and pressuring me to go home just to see me. Kevin has been behaving so childish. He simply is my textmate anyway. And he really is young. He is acting so feminine. So I quit.

Male persona:

Cesar - this kid from *censored* website lives just nearby (Greenland) and was keeping my GLOBE mobile alive with his messages day-in and day-out. So leaving Kevin silent on the other phone was okay. He just came from a break-up and was so early on the rebound. As a kid he has admitted to missing then liking then eventually falling in-love with me much like an instant coffee. I don't care if he's young (in fact very young), it's merely a get-away anyway. What I liked was his intelligent thoughts on matters that we talk about. He makes sense. It means that I can talk about something and he genuinely understands. We are running at almost the same wavelength. My intelligence is not stupefied and challenged. Apart from this he simply is adorably sweet.

Breakup scene

It's a familiar story -- the two of you meet, become inseparable and fall in love...but then the tables turn and one of you wants out.

This person is now out of your life. Period. DO NOT, repeat, DO NOT, call your ex. It's like Chutes and Ladders. One call and you're back at the bottom again. We're all weak-willed, particularly when it comes to people who've broken our hearts. You need to get serious about this. Missing your ex is one thing. Contacting your ex is a no-no. In fact, reconnecting with your ex is the absolute worst thing you can do right now.

Life is short. Make it good for you. Is there something you've always wanted to try but haven't?

Get back in the saddle. Avoid super-quick rebounds, but don't make excuses for not getting out there and meeting new people. Not every coffee date needs to be "the one."

After a breakup, it's all too easy to second-guess yourself and your choices. Did I do the right thing? Should I have given him/her another chance? Maybe there was more I could do to make it work... The truth is, you can make yourself crazy second-guessing your decision. But what's done is done. You had your reasons, made your decision, and now it's time to accept and move on.

You may not know it right now, but in ending your relationship with the wrong person, you're paving the way to meet the right one. Chances are good that you won't meet Mr. or Ms. Right overnight, but that doesn't mean the breakup was a bad decision. By walking away from that wrong relationship, you're headed towards a life that's more honest and authentic for you. What better way to eventually attract your perfect partner than by living and loving your own life?

Forget About Being Friends. Anything that has the word "friend" in it, forget about. "Friends with benefits," "Just friends" -- just say "No." It's hard to move on when you are still keeping one foot in the past. It's time to rely on your other friends for support and get out there and make new friends. You won't be as quick to accept an invite to a party or call an old high school friend if you are busy with your ex.

When a relationship is over, it's easier to think of the good times as opposed to the bad times. The annoying habits and bad character traits seem to recede into the background. All you can think about is the great chemistry and the fun Saturday nights you had going out to your fave Italian restaurant together.
What you're doing is idealizing the relationship now that it's gone. You're turning it into some blockbuster movie romance when at best it was a B movie with mixed reviews. Start looking at it with more objectivity. Remind yourself of the fights you had and the frustration you felt.

When you are hurting after a breakup, it's easy to tell yourself, "I'll never meet anyone this fabulous again" or "I'll never find anyone." But the reality is, you WILL meet someone and, eventually, you will wind up in a better relationship. If this one was healthy and meant to be, you wouldn't be broken up. If you maintain hope and don't give into the hurt, you can pursue and find what you are looking for.

Destiny

Destiny is something you've invented because you cannot stand the fact that everything that happens is what you chose... 

Friday madness

Thet (Patrick) and I were texting this evening about Jay, my estranged, fictitious, begrudging, morose, rancorous and sardonic boyfriend, and he was sharing his virulent feelings about him. And so we have shared whatever stories we had on how we knew Jay and it seems like we know him of the same contumacious persona. Well, GOD knows whoever he is and whatever tumultuous wrath he has brought to mankind and I no longer care whatever hostile shit he does! It was kind-a strange though coz Thet was Jay's buddy and it is idiosyncratic that we were talking about this "mad stranger" in a bad light. Thet happened to ask why I chose Jay over him that time when we've all met. How cheeziee!!!

My attention was brought back to the tips for the heart broken and getting over and moving on stuff by my new textmate from this site that I have been eves-dropping on. And these articles indeed have taught me to weather the emotional storm that I am in, to believe in my self and to get on loving my self even more. I shared with him the same articles that I have been reading that has made my emotions stronger and driven me to get out real fast.

The highlight of the sharing process on the "moving-on and letting-go" topic was the NO CONTACT CONTRACT. It goes to say that we as broken hearted and recently separated individuals MUST NOT at all cost get in touch with the assholes in our past and never to orchestrate any elaborate accidental meeting with the, again, asshole.

This said I will have to end my day soon coz Bam is already here and I am starving to death!

So to the chosen few chauvinist pigs in the world--- YOU ROCK!!! Get a gun and kill yourself!

Appended:
Bam and I went to St. Francis Square Mall and dropped by the alley on the outskirts of this mall. There we savoured Takoyaki. I have tasted this Japanese deli from Ash while Bam has not. It was also from St. Francis but then Ash bought it from the 2nd level stall inside the mall. Tasted good. That's it. Bam commented that it was like squidballs. Yes Bam, it has squid and vegetables squeezed inside that's why... we also indulged in a serving each of sundae on sugar cone to get some brain freeze for a few minutes!

The shuttle was a few minutes delayed and we arrived at Market Market. I dropped by the Harte-Hanks area. As usual the security of the facility got into my nerves ONLY this time I WAS TAME... I was civilized/urbanized! They sounded more accommodating.

Gang (Edgar Pama) fetched us at MM and we went to his shanty (hahaha kidding Gang). Edgar found shelter near our office. It really is more of a bungalow. Bam and I met Kuya Boy (who really has the resemblance of Boy Abunda, I guess, complementing his age and baldness). Present on the crash pad was a homo couple, Pao and Jayson (whose gender I was unable to anatomize). Pao is effemme. I feel that effemmes are finding it harder to thrive in this society. More so, getting a partner who is real as opposed to those discreet and straight-looking/acting homo persons. For one, while the niche of effemmes are the sounding-straight men, the pa-men's are rejoicing amongst themselves. Given this kind of market for effemmes I have this great frustration that we are always on the brink of maltreatment and exploitation, add to that the stigma that the society inflicts and the oppression that one feels.

Talking about love in this kind of relationship we all agreed that most are fugitive, fly-by-night, fugacious, passing, perishable, and provisional partners. Speaking of perishable you really have to consume them before they expire! From this momentary bliss we cherish whatever the status-quo is because we recognize the inevitability of its end. One has to treasure the moment and live. Simply live. Enjoy. This is an ephemeral relationship. One has to live its episodes. Be prepared for its spasmodic nature.

Kevin, the *mobile* boyfriend

Yes, you read it right. I have a "mobile" boyfriend. January 24, 2008. He is Kevin.

AND Yes, for the lack of an appropriate symbolism for the relationship's origin I chose "mobile" to distinctly relate it to having a "cyber" boyfriend. I just don't know how to call it since I believe that the word cyber refers to the World Wide Web World and not a product of technology such as a mobile phone.

It's uncanny coz it may be misunderstood as the ability to transport one's boyfriend from one place to another to wherever I wanna have him go like he was a cellular phone, albeit he is capable of moving as a living creature.

So it was yesterday that I gave in to Kevin's fancy mind of wanting us "officially" together. And I chose the 24th being my birth date too. Nothing eccentric with the number or the forthcoming monthsaries or whatever may happen but simply the thought of it. With this change Kevin has been texting more often and has not been at ease since. He said that he wasn't used with me not sending SMS that often whilst I ran out of load and was not in the mood to spend. And the last message I got from him tonight was "Akin ka lang" (You are mine alone). Anyway, as soon as I arrived home  I have registered for unlimited texting and sent the message away.

Having him was amusing (he's only 19 probably turning 20, graduating from Nursing this semester) as he sends sparks of smile on my face and shock waves to my Limbic System (this is the part of the brain that appears to be most directly involved in human emotion-regulation problems). He fulfills the fantasy of having to wake up each morning with a "steaming-hot" breakfast in bed (kidding coz we're not living together) and a sweet thought via SMS.Those sweet nothings throughout the day via SMS.

Kevin will be waking up in a few hours from now and I have yet to snooze.

NgaNga Rey

I was thrilled to see Rey last night. It has been a few years since we've met, drank, spent some time to bond and a lot more...

Bam and I met in the office last night. Bam was getting bored and he wanted some night out. From Discovery we went to Market Market and there I met with Catyu and Ines to see the new office that I will be occupying. While waiting for Ines, Catyu entertained me. She was so ecstatic that she kept on the talk about the account she's handling, her woes, her real-life office drama, and few other stories as side-dish. My friend and former QA, Ash, is now under her supervision and he was there. He's kind-a busy though. I have seen Catyu as a chatterbox that night and she sounds so like me! She bitches a lot too, this I can feel.

One thing to note with the Harte-Hanks environment is the security of their facility and I hate the OA-ness of the security personnel and the stubborness of the FDA (Front Desk Associate). I would have slapped her. The guard seems more corteous than she was. And God I hate the fact that once I get there full-time I will be using LOTUS Notes which I have no idea about, I will be using Harte-Hanks domain and servers and get outcast from the TELUS world and the worse part--- not being able to make the phone calls when I wanted to using my passcode! The latter I really hate the most and I can sense right now that my freedom is curtailed. Oh yeah, enough of your crap, I know it's for business use! Oh yeah! Who gives a damn shit! I make those phone calls. I don't earn that much. They pay my phone bill! We're quits! That's it!

On a lighter note Ines gave me the freedom to choose the accounts that I wanna have and I hope she stays that way or else it's chaos. Lourds and I were really lax coz we kow each other, how we work and stuff. Ines is fairly new to me and I hate how soft-spoken she is. I wanna have the flexibility of my schedule given the tasks that we have for as long as I do not run over my commitments, right? So Ines and Lourds, this part is for you! Hope you get to read this! hahahaha

I still have a bit of this headache coz Bam decided to go home on the wee hours of the morning from Rey's place after we drank this room temp beer! *blech* And GOD I was very sleepy already.

So this is how I title my blog entries--- I called it NgaNga Rey yet you have not read much about him! Until next time.

Of men

Kevin
1/23 12:31pm - Kumaen k n p0h, i l0ve u!
1/23 8:56am  - gudmorning p0h asawa q i l0ve u, pa legzpi n aq.
1/23 1:07am  - Rest wel i l0ve u.
1/23 1:06am  - Asawa q il0veu
1/23 12:59am - 0po i wil p0h,, pls l0ve me,coz i rili lyk it wen ur sh0wing ur l0ve, npakasarap mu p0h kc magmahal, mahal n mahal n kta, i l0ve u p0h!
1/23 12:48am - se0so aq,, im n0t aftr SEX qng un iniicp m0,, hay,, mybe childish nga aq pero MAHAL P0H KTA!! i l0ve u p0h!
1/22 3:21pm  - i l0ve u uwi aq s0r bcta s l0la q
1/22 1:04pm  - bc aq d2 i l0ve u!
***truncated***
I can no longer count the many times that he said the words "i love you" over SMS on a single day! Whew!

Now who on earth would not want to wake up one day just like this??? Tell me! I am living in my own fantasy. In a cyber world. I have created a fairytale to entertain myself and take me away...

On the other hand, there is this guy named Jerome working as of press time at ICT Marikina who:

1. Says he is gwapo (handsome) and it's on his head;
2. Says he is pihikan (choosy) and as such would ONLY go out with magaganda (pretty) women;
3. Asked if I were maganda (pretty);
4. Believes that beautiful women only date gwapo men;
5. Believes that guys like him are after "sexy bebots (girls)"
   

Naturally, you would expect the bitch in me to whip him with my tongue and my ideology for he is a natural SEXIST and CHAUVINIST PIG as he is portraying himself to be.

With my utter sense of being well educated and intelligent I have to pose my answers in both English and Tagalog educating him in as much as I can and all that he was able to say was that he appreciated the way I replied coz it was like an essay and the way I think! THANK YOU! It only shows how superior my brain is compared to yours, asshole!

And now, blow-by-blow I retorted:

1. I truly believe that I am pretty and I will always say that I am. There were a few idiot brains who have tried to sway this belief yet they never succeeded. I am confident that I am. I am not putting that on my head as a crown. Yet I know that more than the physical beauty there is more to treasure and discover in me, the real beauty within! (Ms. Universe applause)
2. If he so thinks that he is gwapo and he is so proud of being one then I have had it! You're not my type! I have been through many gwapos (JunJun, Ronald, Ryan, Peter, Cris, Nick, Jay, etc.) and they have proved to be worse than what I see on the outside.I had a panget (not so good-looking) ex-boyfriend (Jepoy) and we are still okay til now. I spent the New Year with him and his family in Laguna.
3. Having good-looking men only date good-looking women and vice versa is a form of mal-education and is good as being dead! Brainless! Coz this ideology is a thought coming from men or women who have no forethought of the future. They tend to cling on the physical aspect of the person rather than what they will have in the future. You cannot eat their looks! It wouldn't feed you! Oh sorry, YES it will feed your imagination of a rotten future!
4. And guys saying that they are after "sexy bebots" are idiots. It only reflects how much they disrespect themselves. They are looking at women as mere objects of desire, as mere objects to fulfill their fantasy. Again, this line of thought are for mal-educated persons.

Now, imagine how many SMS I sent to deliver all these. No wonder he was taken by storm and struck by lightning with my brainwaves on it. And all that this poor guy can say is that I wrote well...

Also, to note that the calendar month of January has not ended yet and the hits on my FRIENDSTER profile has soared high to over 200 plus! Wow, what a feat!

Smallville Season 7

Now that's what we call my favorite number!!!! And I have just noticed that the latest episode I watched was of 7-7 (Season 7 Episode 7)... The number 7, I believe, was lucky... Wala lang... I just don't wanna join the hype over the number 8 and go gaggah with the rest of the Chinese community!

And while watching this Smallville episode Kevin was texting and some jerk named Jerome working at ICT in Marikina was also texting about his bigotry and chauvinist pig ideas about women! And enough of this bitch-male coz he is not the highlight of this all... It's all about SMALLVILLE!!!

And so here are a few lines I picked up from the TV show which I fell in-love with all over again!

Episode 5:
Lana: Clark, I just want to grab on to you and never let you go... but one day the world will need you more than I do. And I don't wanna be the one holding you here.
Clark: I'm not going anywhere. For the first time in my life, I have everything I've ever wanted and it's right here on this farm with you.

Episode 6:
Lionel: "...in the darkest hour this soul is replenished and given the strength to continue and endure..."
Episode 7:
Lana: "Clark if I wanted normal I would have rethought the part about dating a guy who shoots fire from his eyes..."
Lana: "I wish you wouldn't look at me like you hadn't seen me before... We will find our way back from this... [Don't] take all of the blames so that you don't taint the image of me that you created...I have to live with the decisions that I've made...I just need to know that you love me... No matter what..."

And now, back to reality. I have had since been tracking these Smallville episodes. I started late so I have to buy the DVDs from its pilot episode to the 5th season and download the rest each time it airs. I remember Jason Escoto and I updating each other on the latest episodes and getting on the race to download it. After some time, I forgot about it. And now, after the gruesome break-up with Jay Arjona I am back into Smallville and finding myself in-love once again... It's just that I have been dying to see Clark and Lana together and get on it! I have been dying to see them kiss and just get intimate!